Tuesday, 14 August 2012

What NOT to wear to a wedding // Clothing Etiquette.

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Recently, I went shopping for a dress suitable to wear to a wedding and realised how strict I was with myself. I tried on a beautiful electric blue dress but decided it was far too bold for a wedding, countless others showed too much cleavage or were too short. In the end I settled on an amber coloured dress - I'll post an outfit post soon! Anyway, once I was at the wedding I noticed that several people weren't as strict as me in the dressing department. This, along with the fact that I have my own strict rules and have been asked several times if 'this white dress' is okay to wear for a wedding, has sparked this post!

White
 Leave this colour for the bride, let her shine and never attempt to upstage her. Personally, I'd also steer clear of ivory, cream, blush or anything close. White dresses with colourful prints, polka dots or stripes are fine. Basically, if you could describe it to somebody else as a white dress, put it back in your wardrobe and save it for another occasion. Even if you've checked with the bride and she's fine with it, you've obviously doubted yourself for a moment and thats reason enough. If the bride won't be offended, there is a chance that somebody else will be, the mother of the bride or grandparents for example. Its just not worth it. 

Black
 Black is a dark, serious colour, often associated with mourning. I do believe, that this rule can probably be bent somewhat, depending on the style and 'feel' of the dress; sequins and fishtails, perhaps. 
If, however, you deem it suitable to wear at a funeral, put it away and opt for something with a little more colour.  

Colours of the bridal party
 If you know what colour the bridesmaids are wearing, steer clear. You can usually gauge an idea of the colour scheme from your invitation, so use that as a guide. You just don't want to look like you're gatecrashing the bridal party. 

Skimpy Clothes & Bold Colours 
There is nothing wrong with showing off your asset's, but there is a time and a place - Weddings are not one of them. This is usually my biggest problem as I struggle to find dresses that are long enough without looking frumpy. Although colours are great, I'd also steer clear of really attention-grabbing bright colours, especially your 'little red dress' which screams 'look at me,' as well as being a colour associated with adultery. Every bit of attention you're getting, is a little less attention on the bride. 

Jeans 
The bride and groom are probably dressed the best they ever have, attendee's have cracked out their hats, fascinators and are dressed up to the nines, and somebody turns up in jeans that would get you turned away from a local club. I won't say any more than that! 

Do you have any 'rules' when dressing yourself for an occasion?
What horrifying things have you seen people turn up in?
S xx

47 comments:

  1. I will add the link to this post on my wedding invitations. :-p x

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  2. i like this post loads, not only did it make me laugh considering past weddings i've been to - but it's nice to have something to refer to. i REALLY struggle to work out what to wear at weddings and panic last minute every time that i'm going to be under dressed/over dressed/looking ridiculous compared to others etc.

    (once, i went to a wedding where someone genuinely turned up in a neon yellow vest and jeans. baffled. that said, the bridge wore a violet dress!) x

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  3. I went to a wedding once where a fella's girlfriend turned up in a bright, BRIGHT dress that wouldn't look out of place at a beach party. Initially it was a shock, but as the day went on it matched her bright and bubbly personality.

    At the reception, she disappeared then came back wearing a SEE-THROUGH CROCHET dress. You could see her underwear. Not just a little bit - you could SEE HER UNDERWEAR.

    It was so bizarre. The bride nearly cried.

    The next day the girl in question contacted the bridge and apologised for her poor choice in outfit as she felt it was completely unacceptable and she realised that... which is why she got changed into the crochet dress.

    True story.

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    1. Oh my absolute god, this is a nightmare story!! (But it did make me laugh) It really does astonish me how people don't seem to think - Don't even get me started on people that turn up wearing TIARAS!!?

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    2. The worst thing is, everyone was judging the girl with the dresses, but she's a really nice person! Just apparently has no concept of what's acceptable!haha

      x

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  4. I think it's a shame people have lost their sense of occasion, and I agree on everything you've said except I don't think bright colours are a problem! I'm not suggesting anyone wear neon, but reds, blues, greens are all happy colours and not a problem - after all, red is the colour of love ;) x

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    1. Ah yes, colours are all thats left over after black and white - But when I was searching for a dress I tried on an electric blue dress that was AWESOME but actually, was so bold I would've stood out like a sore thumb, so went for a softer orange colour instead. It was colourful, but just not so 'in your face,' as the blue one looked almost like tinsel! Coo-ee!! x

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  5. I know first hand how annoying it is for someone to wear the wrong colour to a wedding - a 'friend' wore a short cream dress to mine! I still haven't forgiven her :)

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    1. Oh no! I'm not sure I'd be able to act normal around my friend wearing that either, I'd be so disappointed!

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  6. I thought I was the only person who is strict with myself, too. The biggest problem when wedding guest shopping is that EVERY dress on the high street seems too short. I think just resting above the knee is great, but mini dress are such a no-no in my opinion for weddings. I just think it looks tacky. The same goes for white and cream. It seems like every wedding I go to (and it's a lot at the minute!)nobody really seems to care and women turn in short dress and things that i daren't wear on a Saturday night to a club. Maybe that's just me and I sound old fashioned but I totally understand where you are coming from. If you ever have to ask the bride if it's okay if you should wear something, it probably isn't and she might just be too polite to say! x

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    1. Isn't it just? I swear shops are trying to save money on that tiny bit of fabric! I'm 5'9" and its an absolute nightmare, its all too short but all the 'tall' stuff is too long and looks mega frumpy!
      Argh where is the etiquette? Short dresses to a club? Nononono! Maybe we're both old fashioned, maybe not! Maybe some people have just lost all sense of occasion, hmm!! x

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  7. great advice. Every wedding is different but I think as long as you let the bride shine, you'll be ok. And I guess imagine how you'd feel if someone wore it to your wedding!

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  8. Yeah I totally agree with you. I've seen so many girls wear white to a wedding and it's always shocked me! Totally wrong to wear that.
    xx

    xoxo Bree
    The Urban Umbrella

    http://www.theurbanumbrella.com/

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  9. I agree with this! When someone tells me they plan on wearing white or black to a wedding I go mad! x
    Sirens and Bells

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  10. Brilliant post and a must read for any guest!

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  11. Hannah Bavington14 August 2012 at 18:37

    Someone wore a white dress to my wedding. Everyone was furious with her although I didn't mind

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  12. Haha I wore a cream lacey dress to my Dads wedding, to be fair I had searched for anything that I liked and it was the one dress I'd actually keep so it wasn't a waste of money :D I don't think anyone minded though haha. My Mums Mum wore black to her wedding and she was NOT impressed so I guess it depends how the bride feels about it, personally I really wouldn't mind unless someone turned up in a wedding dress carrying a bouquet :p x

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  13. Couldn't agree more with this post. I really dislike it when people wear things that are really short or have boobs popping out all over the place. No one wants that in their wedding photos.

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  14. Completely agree! My best friend got married at the beginning of this month, and I was one of the bridesmaids. There was a group of girls whom were friends with the groom, and one of them showed up wearing: a tight fitting bodycon-style dress, with an extreme V-Neck that showed quite a bit of cleavage, 100% covered in sequins, and in white/silver! Paired with sky high hooker heels! It was like she'd tried to find the most inappropriate thing in her whole wardrobe to wear. (and she showed up late and tried to sneak out during the toasts...) All the bridesmaids were completely shocked, and she looked, honestly, REALLY trashy.

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    1. Oh dear! That really is every no-no rolled into one, what an absolute nightmare!!

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  15. I completely agree, I don't get why people (apart from the Bride!) would wear a white dress to a wedding, total no-no in my books!.. and yes definitely wise not to wear the same colour as the bridal party without ending up looking like a bridesmaid!

    Caroline x
    Caroline's Catwalk

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  16. This is a great guide, really helpful! x

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  17. This post is so helpful, I have panicked about what to wear to weddings in the past, worrying that my outfits are too dark, too short, too casual, etc!

    Frances xx

    http://francescassandra.blogspot.co.uk

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  18. I am a cream/lace person, even to weddings, I got into a huge debate (I think she'd call it an argument) with an online person on a random forum once. Don't get me wrong, I agree with everything you've said, and it is a very good post but some times it's hard not to. The cream dress I wore to my close friends wedding was lovely, and she didn't mind at all, jeez it was so far away from being like her dress, expect for the similar tones, why would she care.
    It's hard to dress for weddings though, I think being there all day is the worst too, because you then get the influx of newbies for the evening do xx

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  19. I agree and I'm really shocked that other girls don't seem to either know these rules or care for them? I went to my Fiance's Auntie's wedding and because it was all his family I was extra careful in what I chose. The bottom half of the dress was black and came down to just above the knee and the top of the dress was a goldish champagne colour, and I made sure that it covered my chest up nicely. I was horrified to find most of the bride's family turn up in bright red, short dresses, one of her cousins even turned up in a dress that she needed tit tape for to make sure there wasn't a nip slip... how on earth could anyone deem that as acceptable for a wedding?! And if it is a case of not caring... well that's just plain bad.

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  21. I've been amazed at some of the things people wear to weddings. Last year, I went to a wedding where people turned up in jeans and walking boots, like seriously WTF??

    I'm going to another wedding in October, and I spent so long stressing about what to wear for the exact same reasons as you, but I ended up buying a white / patterned maxi dress, and am still feeling paranoid about it. I love the cut of the dress though, because even though it's kinda low cut, it's flattering to the boobs and doesn't reveal too much, or anything at all since I don't really have that much with regards to cleavage haha :)

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    1. Jeans and walking boots? This is amazing. I really don't understand why anybody would think thats okay?!

      If the dress is patterned I probably wouldn't worry about it too much, though if its maxi and can still be described as a white dress...! I want to see it!
      I'm alright in that department, my boobs are small as well so I can wear a VERY low cut top and still look flat chested, ha!

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  22. I was at a 'white tie' wedding this summer and everyone really made the effort, which was great. Except this one girl who obviously thought that meant wear white and turned up in a river island dress with cut out sides that had mesh in them where the cut out was, not to mention that it was also just about covering her bum! I had seen the dress in store and thought it looked tacky anyway but, seriously, for a WEDDING? Everyone was looking at her and I'm sure she thought she looked great but it was just absolutely awful!

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  23. Absolutely agree with all of these although I think the worst of the lot is the last one - not bothering to make an effort. I love going to weddings and seeing everyone dressed up and looking gorgeous - ooh excited for my cousin's wedding on Saturday now! (High-necked, knee-length orange/red/yellow chiffon dress ;-))

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  24. Hmmm now you make me feel a bit bad about that bodycon-style neon pink dress I wore to my friend's wedding this summer... although the bride told me I looked very classy and she was proud of my clothing choice LOL?!

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    1. Ahhh thats fine, neon pink body con dress with side split up the thiiiiigh? Mmmm not so much ;)

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  25. Love this post! I get so annoyed at some of the things that people wear to Weddings. I was at a Wedding where one girl wore a white, lace dress, which was bad enough in itself, add to that the fact that it was short and see through and it was just horrendous! x

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    1. Ohh I've seen this too! White lace dress with the asymmetric style too, almost mocked a train *facepalm*

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  26. I just used this article to give someone advice on why they should not wear white to a wedding x

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  27. Great tips for wedding outfit.All tips in this post are most useful.Thanks for sharing with us.

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  30. Two girls wore white to my wedding. One I didn't even notice it was white as she teamed it with black tights and pillar box red clutch and shoes. The other was lace and worn with cream accessories... don't think I will ever forgive her!

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  31. The best weddings DO enjoy the songs, because they are most at ease and having the most fun. Pretty much all I do is weddings

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  34. Is bodycon style dress okay if there is no cleavage, length to knees without a slit? It's a dark teal color....

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